Greg Sutphin

Choosing an Adoption Agency

When you’ve decided to adopt a child, and you know you want to work through an agency, one of the most challenging tasks can be selecting the appropriate agency to handle your adoption. It can be a complicated and daunting process, but here are some tips for making certain that the agency you choose will be the right one.

Your First Step

There are literally thousands of adoption agencies in the United States, so you’ll need to narrow down your search substantially. One of the first questions you’ll need to ask yourself is whether you want to adopt domestically or internationally. Some agencies only handle domestic adoptions, while others really specialize in international adoptions. Furthermore, some international agencies have sub-specialties, doing a lot of their work in a few countries. In addition, you’ll want to determine whether you want to work with a local agency or a national/international agency. The local agency will typically provide a more personal experience and you’ll likely have access to more local post-adoption resources. A national agency will typically have more contacts and resources. You’ll want an agency with a lot of experience, but you can expect to pay a little more for that experience. In addition, there are advantages and disadvantages to the size of an agency. A larger agency will provide a bigger pool of candidates, but a smaller agency will typically give you more personal access to caseworkers.

Interview a Number of Agencies

Once you’ve narrowed your list to between five and ten, it’s time to ask questions. The initial questions can be solicited through an e-mail, but it’s always better, if possible to meet with agency representatives in person. Don’t get caught up in the numbers, though. It’s important to know how many adoptions the agency handles a year, and how long the average wait is, but it’s just as important to determine that you’ll enjoy working with the agency.

Contact Us

To set up an appointment, call us in Haddonfield at 856-429-5005 or in Woodbury at 856-845-2555. We can also be reached in Philadelphia at 215-563-2150 or by e-mail. For clients with personal injury or workers’ compensation claims, we offer a free initial consultation, and will represent you on a contingency basis, only charging attorney fees if we recover compensation for you.

Our offices are open weekdays between 9 a.m. and 5 p.m. Weekend and evening appointments may be arranged upon request. We will also come to your home or the hospital, if necessary.

Supreme Court Decision Regarding Same Sex Marriage

The recent decision of the Supreme Court of the United States establishing that same sex couples have a constitutionally protected right to marry has a direct and beneficial effect on children. Specifically, the decision recognizes the dignity of all families and provides for the protection of children who are adopted or born into gay and lesbian families. This decision will allow all children to have legally recognized parents in every state and will guarantee that those children who are living with gay or lesbian parents will have secure and permanent relationships with them. In other words, each child will now have the benefit of two parents who are legally responsible for them. This can only benefit the children. The Supreme Court decision will now allow for the legally protected relationships between these parents and the children that they love and are raising. The Supreme Court decision was one in favor of children and to that extent it should be applauded.

Maintaining Your Child’s Cultural Identity after Adoption

Whether your child is biological or adopted, it’s important that they have a strong sense of their family history and cultural identity. When your child comes from a foreign country, the customs and practices of their native land are a part of their cultural makeup. By embracing their native culture, you can help assure that they develop into healthy adults. Here are some ways to keep your adopted child’s cultural heritage alive.

Make the Culture Part of Your Regular Routine

Find restaurants or regularly prepare meals that include food from your child’s country of origin. If there are holidays that are unique to your child’s native culture, celebrate them and make certain your child understands why you are doing so.

Find Support Groups

Many cities have organized groups of families who have adopted from a specific country. For example, if your child was adopted from China, you can probably find a group of similar families who get together on a regular basis to learn about and share in cultural events, dinners and festivals.

Look for Special Events

Many large cities have festivals celebrating different aspects of foreign cultures. Your local museum may bring in exhibits that feature art, history or cultural artifacts from their native land.

Learn Their Language

This can be a fun adventure that you and your child can share. Be prepared to have your child learn the language a lot faster than you do. It can be a perfect opportunity for them to teach you something, which will help build their self-esteem.

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Our offices are open weekdays between 9 a.m. and 5 p.m. Weekend and evening appointments may be arranged upon request. We will also come to your home or the hospital, if necessary.

US Supreme Court Upholds Rights of Adoptive Same Sex Partner

On March 7, 2016 the US Supreme Court ruled that a Judgment of Adoption entered in one state must be recognized and respected in any other state in the country.

Between 2002 and 2004 a woman who was identified as E.L. gave birth to three children, a single birth and a twin birth. She was in a committed relationship with another woman who has been identified as V.L. V.L. with the consent of her partner E.L. filed for a second parent adoption in Georgia where the couple had rented a home. The adoption complied with all requirements of Georgia law and was granted by the court. Years later when living in Alabama, E.L. and V.L. separated. V.L. sought joint custody and visitation with the children in Alabama. While the Alabama lower courts agreed that she was entitled to this, the Alabama Supreme Court ruled that the Judgment of Adoption need not be honored in Alabama. V.L. appealed this to the United States Supreme Court arguing that under the United States Constitution and federal law which requires judgments of one state be given full faith an credit in a sister state, the Judgment of Adoption had to be honored in Alabama. The US Supreme Court, while not discussing the issue of same sex couples, ruled that V.L. was correct in that full faith and credit should apply. The court specifically said, “A state may not disregard the judgment of a sister state because it disagrees with the reasoning.” The Supreme Court then returned this case to Alabama for further hearings on custody and visitation, but the issue of legal entitlement has now been resolved.

This case now raises the question in assisted reproduction cases as to whether judgments granting parentage by way of Pre-Birth Orders in one state will be honored in a sister state that does not provide for such orders.

NJ Governor Vetos Bill to Amend Birth Certificates for Transgendered Individuals

In August of 2015 Governor Christie vetoed a Bill which had passed the New Jersey House and Senate that would have allowed individuals to obtain an amended birth certificate due to a change in sex. Under the current law, in order to obtain an amended birth certificate an individual must have undergone sex reassignment surgery. The amendment to the Bill would have allowed the birth certificate to be amended if the person requesting it could submit documentation from a licensed health care professional showing that the person had undergone clinically appropriate treatment for the purpose of gender transition based on contemporary medical standards. The legislature in passing the Bill recognized that some transgendered individuals may not be able to afford reassignment surgery or that their plans do not include such surgery but they still live each day as the gender with which they identify. Without this amendment the result would be that these individuals would have government documents and all identification cards indicating their gender which is not consistent with who they are. This means that if an individual is transgendered it would necessarily be disclosed to that person’s employer, schools, or any other organization or individual requiring these forms of identification. The concern is that this could lead to further discrimination.

Currently New York and Hawaii have passed such Bills. Although this amendment was supported by the New Jersey State Bar Association and passed by the New Jersey House and Senate, it was vetoed by the Governor. This likely will be introduced again at the next legislative session or when a new Governor is elected.

Expansion of the Child Citizenship Act of 2000

In 2000 the Child Citizenship Act was passed which granted automatic US citizenship to children who were adopted abroad. Unfortunately the Act did not apply retroactively and therefore children who were already 18 when the Act went into effect would not obtain automatic US citizenship. This had many negative effects and as such Senators Jeff Merkley (D-RN) and Amy Klobuchar (D-MN) have co-sponsored an amendment to the Child Citizenship Act to grant such automatic US citizenship retroactively.

The Risks Involved with Open Adoptions

In an open adoption, everyone involved in the process knows the identity and location of everyone else. A birthmother will have regular communication with adoptive parents before the adoption and this can typically continue after the placement, in the form of letters, birthday cards, e-mails, telephone calls and visitation. An open adoption can provide both adoptive and birth parents with greater reassurances that the adoption will be in everyone’s best interests, but there are also a number of drawbacks.

Concerns for Adoptive Parents

There are a number of potential challenges for adoptive parents when the location and identities of all parties are known:

Adoptive parents can easily be manipulated because of a fear of not getting the child. This can lead to significant expense if the birthparent becomes manipulative and asks for money to cover cost of living and other items.
The relationship will be ongoing—If everyone is a healthy adult, this may not be a problem. But if the birthmother is emotionally unstable and knows who you are and where you live, you’ll face challenges the rest of your life.
You may add an unwanted member to your family—The birthmother may assume that, because her child is a part of your family, she is too. She may show up unannounced or assume that she’ll be part of family gatherings.

Concerns for Birth Parents

Birth parents also face challenges related to open adoption proceedings:

The birth mother may be afraid to change her mind when she knows the adoptive parents personally, either because of concerns about the emotional commitment or financial investment of the adoptive family
The birth mother can also be manipulated by adoptive parents, who can make demands based on the amount of money they are spending or the argument that they are providing the child with a good home

Contact Our Office

To set up an appointment, call us in Haddonfield at 856-429-5005 or in Woodbury at 856-845-2555. We can also be reached in Philadelphia at 215-563-2150 or by by e-mail. For clients with personal injury or workers’ compensation claims, we offer a free initial consultation, and will represent you on a contingency basis, only charging attorney fees if we recover compensation for you.

Our offices are open weekdays between 9 a.m. and 5 p.m. Weekend and evening appointments may be arranged upon request. We will also come to your home or the hospital, if necessary.

The Potential Benefits of an Open Adoption

For centuries, adoption was something that wasn’t discussed outside courtrooms and adoption agencies. Birth parents and adoptive parents never met, did not know each other’s identities, and had no ongoing relationship. With the concept of open adoption, all that has changed. It’s not necessarily the best option for everyone, but here are the potential advantages of an open adoption.

Benefits for Birth Parents

As a birth parent, you want to choose the best situation to place your child. The more you know about potential adoptive parents, the better decision you can make. With an open adoption, you can meet adoptive parents, ask them all the questions you need answered, and have the confidence that you are doing the right thing. In addition, you have the opportunity to maintain a meaningful relationship with your child as they grow up. Accordingly, you can formulate an adoption plan with confidence, knowing that your child will be in good hands.

Benefits for Adoptive Parents

One of the most difficult parts of the adoption process for adoptive parents can be the sense that you have no control over any part of the process. With an open adoption, you get to participate in the matching process. If the birthparent chooses you, you can have a strong sense of validation, that you are doing the right thing. You’ll have the ability to learn about your child’s family medical history, and will have a contact person, should issues arise as your child gets older.

Benefits for Adopted Children

Adopted children can also benefit from knowing both adopted and birth parents. They’ll have a stronger sense of personal identity knowing their birth parents, and will have fewer unanswered questions about why they were adopted. In addition, there won’t be unfounded fantasies or imaginings about birth parents.

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Our offices are open weekdays between 9 a.m. and 5 p.m. Weekend and evening appointments may be arranged upon request. We will also come to your home or the hospital, if necessary.

Pennsylvania Woman Loses Surrogacy Contract Appeal

A Pennsylvania woman who entered into a gestational surrogacy agreement with her then-husband and a gestational surrogate has been declared to be the legal mother of the child. The Pennsylvania Superior Court upheld the ruling of the Montgomery County Court of Common Pleas in mid-November, ruling against actress and television personality Sherri Shepherd.

According to court documents, Shepherd and her then-husband, Lamar Sally, sought out reproductive surrogacy services shortly after their marriage in 2012. They were matched with Jessica Bartholomew, who carried the child to term. Shepherd and Sally filed court documents to have them named as parents on the child’s birth certificate, but Shepherd refused to sign the documents, citing marital difficulties. Bartholomew then asked the court to enter an order declaring Shepherd and Sally to be the legal parents. Shepherd claimed that the gestational surrogacy contract was unenforceable, but the trial court disagreed, as did the Superior Court.

In her appeal, Shepherd claimed that Pennsylvania law does not allow “parentage by contract” and that the surrogacy agreement could therefore not be enforced. The Superior Court rejected that argument, citing Ferguson v. McKiernan, where the Pennsylvania Supreme Court allowed an oral agreement between a mother and a sperm donor to be enforceable. The court concluded that the surrogacy agreement had full force of law, and that Shepherd’s failure to sign documents designating her as legal parent were in breach of that agreement.

Counsel for Lamar Sally told the court that Sally has been raising the child as a single parent since birth and that Shepherd has had no contact with the child.

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To set up an appointment, call us in Haddonfield at 856-429-5005 or in Woodbury at 856-845-2555. We can also be reached in Philadelphia at 215-563-2150 or by e-mail .

Our offices are open weekdays between 9 a.m. and 5 p.m. Weekend and evening appointments may be arranged upon request. We will also come to your home or the hospital, if necessary.

Domestic or International Adoption?

You know that you want to adopt a child. Your next decision—should you adopt domestically (within the United States) or internationally. Here are some of the key issues to consider.

The Cost

Cost used to be much more of a consideration when deciding whether to adopt in the United States or through a foreign country, but that’s not so much the case anymore. With a domestic adoption, you can expect to spend anywhere from $20,000 to $35,000, as a general rule. With an international adoption, the bottom end can be lower—as little as $15,000—but the top end can be higher—as much as $50,000. It all depends on what country you choose. The costs are typically more predictable with a foreign adoption, as you generally don’t pay medical or living expenses for a birthmother. You face financial risks either way, as a birthmother may change her mind after you’ve incurred costs or a country may close its borders to adoption.

Contact or Communication with Birth Parents

If you want your child to have knowledge of and a relationship with birth parents, you’ll want to adopt domestically. If, on the other hand, you don’t want an ongoing relationship with the birthmother, an international adoption will typically accomplish that objective.

The Process

With a domestic adoption, there’s usually far more uncertainty in the process. It’s typically a matching process, where you put your profile out and prospective birthmothers review your profile and choose you. With most international adoptions, you are bringing home a child from an orphanage, so the “courtship” between birth parents and adoptive parents never takes place. There’s a waiting list and you get in line on the waiting list. With some countries, you can often know within a month or so of the exact date you’ll travel to bring home your child.

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